Then looking at an old Christian viewpoint on marriage - going back some time:
One Corinthians chapter 7
7 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
Should the wife (or husband if the situation is reversed) be guiltless if she (he) deprives their partner of God's gift of sexual satisfaction and the partner strays? Have we strayed so far from the idea of marriage, when it was the one place that people could sinlessly enjoy sex, to where it is now: almost an aberration amongst non believers and a place, in marriage, where one partner or the other can claim the moral high ground by denying their partners?
I am not advocating marital rape, but perhaps proposing a society that says to both partners that the bean jar principle is the road to perdition. Where couple who want to get married are told before they tie the knot that within a certain number of years it is highly unlikely that you will be having sex (at least between the two of you). To give one or other the chance to recognise that marriage is not a bed or roses, or of passion.
There is an old joke: "Why do condoms come in packs of twelve?"
That is a month's supply for a single man: Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday,
and a year's supply for a married man:
January, February, March, April......... (if he is lucky)
perhaps we need a new development from 'big pharm', instead of some version of viagra or cialis, a tablet that men can take, from the first few days of marital 'bliss', that will reduce their libido to negotiable levels:, thus satisfying those feminists who, in accord with their suffragette sisters, consider the aim of feminism as the "Votes for women and chastity for men"
Yes, that is the idea.
Edited by DougRichards, 19 March 2018 - 0527 AM.